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Question 1:

Osho,

Is the concept of soulmates more useful than marriage?

 

 

Prem Pragyan, one of the most significant things in man"s life has been the love affair. Birth is not in your hands, death is not in your hands; and these are the only three great things in life: birth, love, and death. Only love is in your hands, only love gives you the freedom and dignity of being a human being; otherwise, birth and death happen just like any other animal, or any tree. Love should be kept as pure and unpolluted as possible.

 

You are asking, "Is the concept of soulmates more useful than marriage?" Concepts don't matter.

 

What matters is your understanding. You can change the word "marriage" to the word "soulmates", but you are the same. You will make the same hell out of soulmates as you have been making out of marriage - nothing has changed, only the word, the label. Don't believe in labels too much.

 

Why has marriage failed? In the first place, we raised it to unnatural standards. We tried to make it something permanent, something sacred, without knowing even the ABC of sacredness, without knowing anything about the eternal. Our intentions were good but our understanding was very small, almost negligible. So instead of marriage becoming something of a heaven, it has become a hell.

 

Instead of becoming sacred, it has fallen even below profanity.

 

And this has been man"s stupidity - a very ancient one: whenever he gets into difficulty, he changes the word. Change the word "marriage" into "soulmates", but don't change yourself. And you are the problem, not the word; any word will do. A rose is a rose is a rose ... you can call it by any name.

 

You are asking to change the concept, you are not asking to change yourself.

 

Marriage has failed because you could not rise to the standard that you were expecting of marriage, of the concept of marriage. You were brutal, you were barbarous, you were full of jealousies, you were full of lust; you had never known really what love is. In the name of love, you tried everything which is just the opposite of love: possessiveness, domination, power.

 

Marriage has become a battlefield where two persons are fighting for supremacy. Of course, the man has his own way: rough and more primitive. The woman has her own way: feminine, softer, a little more civilized, more subdued. But the situation is the same. Now psychologists are talking about marriage as an intimate enmity. And that"s what it has proved to be. Two enemies are living together pretending to be in love, expecting the other to give love; and the same is being expected by the other. Nobody is ready to give - nobody has it. How can you give love if you don't have it?

 

And when you feel that love is not coming towards you ... and both feel the same: a great frustration and an idea, a suspicion that perhaps the other has deceived you. Before the marriage both were using beautiful words, sweet nothings; both were bringing their best to attract the other, to catch hold of the other. And once they are married, and the law has entered in, and society has granted you freedom to live together, soon the honeymoon is over. Even before coming back from the honeymoon it is over ... all is finished because you have come to know the other in their total wholeness, which is ugly.

 

The facade, the mask that they were wearing before the marriage has slipped. You cannot hold it for twenty-four hours. When you live with someone, you have to come down from your hypocrisies and be whatever you are - and you know that you are not the person you pretend to be. The same is true about the other. And then it becomes a struggle to possess the woman, to possess the man.

 

The only significant symptom of love is, it never possesses; on the contrary, it gives freedom. It is happy in the happiness of the other. It does not beg; it is not a beggar. It is an emperor. It gives, and it gives unconditionally.

 

But in actual life, what we have been doing for centuries is asking the other to give; and the other is also asking you to give. And both are beggars, their bowls are empty; they don't have anything to give. It becomes a struggle, a warfare.

 

You can change the concept from marriage to soulmates, but what about you? What about the people who will become soulmates? If they are the same people who were becoming a couple in a marriage, nothing will change.

 

My suggestion is, neither marriage is needed nor soulmates are needed - just friendliness is enough. You don't know anything about soul, how can you become a soulmate?

 

If you can become just friendly with each other, that is more than can be expected from the present man. If you can be understanding of each other"s frailties, weaknesses, that is more than can be expected.

 

If you can drop the old superstitions, that once a woman or a man loves you, they have to love you forever ... Love is very fragile. It is just like a flower: beautiful, but very delicate. In the morning it blossoms; by the evening it is gone, its petals are scattered. That was a beauty in the morning; by the evening it has become a grave. Life is a changing, continuously changing phenomenon.

 

When I say a great understanding is needed, the old idea of permanent relationship under any concept has to be dropped. You have to live moment to moment, you have to live each moment as if it is the last moment. So don't waste it in quarreling, in nagging or in fighting. Perhaps you will not find the next moment even for an apology.

 

One of the mystics, Sarmad, used to tell his disciples every night, "We are going to sleep for the last time. Please forgive me. As a master I may have been hard to you. I had to be because I loved you and I wanted a transformation to happen. And I don't know whether in the morning I will wake up again, so I"m asking for your forgiveness." Each night he would go to bed as if it was the last night - and one day it is going to be true, one night will be the last night and you will never wake up again.

 

And each morning he would wake up as if it was a new beginning; he had accepted death in the night before, now this was a rebirth. He looks tremendously grateful towards existence: one day more to live, one day more the sun, the wind, the trees, the birds, one day more of friends, one day more of love. But not more than that.

 

The very idea of having a permanent, lifelong relationship helps you to postpone that which is essential and go on doing things which are absolutely nonessential; not only nonessential but idiotic.

 

People are fighting about such small things that they themselves, in their saner moments, laugh about it. I have heard about a couple who were getting married in the government registrar"s office. The man signed - the woman had signed before him. As she saw the man"s signature, she immediately told the registrar, "I want a divorce." The registrar said, "What has happened? You are getting married, you have just signed the marriage papers."

 

She said, "Yes, I have signed but things have gone sour already. Just look at the paper. I have signed in small letters and he has signed in such big letters, to show me who he is. This is the beginning of trouble - I don't want to get into it." The bigger letters already declare the supremacy, superiority of the man.

 

You can change words - I would like to change your consciousness.

 

The idea of permanent relationship was wrong, but it has been imposed on you by poets, by priests, by everybody. And I am not saying that two persons cannot live in deep friendship for their whole life. They can, but it should not be a conditioning, but just a flowering of friendship, open. Any day one partner can say, "I am grateful for all the beautiful moments you have given to me, but now our paths separate. In sadness ... but I will remember you always. I don't want life with you to create a hell. Then all that was beautiful will be destroyed, even the memory of it will be destroyed. Just a friendliness is enough."

 

My vision of a new society is that of small communes, not of big cities. A commune consisting of not more than five thousand people, so that people can know each other very easily. And the commune should take the whole responsibility for the children, and nobody should be allowed to have children unless the commune needs them. That decision will be of the commune. And now all scientific techniques are available. The society can decide what it needs - engineers, doctors, scientists, poets, mystics. Now it is scientifically possible to choose what kind of a child you are going to give birth to, you just have to drop your old superstition that the child has to be yours.

 

Just as you have blood banks, you should have sperm banks in every hospital. And scientists are able now to figure out about every living sperm; they can read it, what it is going to be. Up to now we have lived a very accidental life, and perhaps the world is so full of stupid and retarded people because of that.

 

When two persons make love, the man releases in one lovemaking almost a million living sperm, and a great politics starts because they all run fast to reach the mother"s egg. Only one will be able to enter. The mother"s egg is made in such a way that it remains open until a living male sperm has entered it. The moment the sperm enters, it closes. It rarely happens that two cells reach simultaneously - that"s why twins are born - or sometimes three, or sometimes four; but these are exceptions.

 

That small passage is a long journey for the small sperm. According to its size it is almost two miles long, and a great struggle ... a million people trying to reach to become the president! My understanding is that the wiser ones will stand to the side and let the idiots go ahead.

 

Rabindranath was the thirteenth child of his parents. If there had been birth control, Rabindranath would not have ever been born. And even without birth control there are very few people who produce thirteen children. If the parents had stopped at one dozen, which would have been more logical and a more rounded figure, Rabindranath would have been out of the game, you would never have heard of that man and his greatness.

 

But science has become able, within these last ten years, to read the whole future of a single sperm: whether it is going to become a scientist, whether it is going to become a poet or a doctor or a philosopher or a mystic or a dancer or a musician. Its potential can be read. Its life pattern, in minute detail, can be read: whether it will be a healthy child or a sick child, whether it will die after six months or after a hundred years. To go on doing the old accidental thing and producing children, not knowing whom you are bringing into the world - whether you are giving birth to an Adolf Hitler or a Benito Mussolini or a Joseph Stalin or a Ronald Reagan ... you don't have any idea. It is a very blind game.

 

Love should be only of friendship. And if society has a need and the medical profession proves your wife to be the right vehicle for bringing a child into the world, then from their sperm bank they can find the right sperm and inject it. You can go on making love; that is a separate affair.

 

There has been the pill, but it was not a hundred percent foolproof. Sometimes you are not thinking that you are going to make love and you don't take the pill, and suddenly your lover turns up and you take the risk. They chance it - it is not always that one becomes pregnant. Now they have come up with two other pills. One is to be taken after you have made love - that is a hundred percent effective - and for the second one the woman is not needed, just the man can take a pill. They have come up with a pill for men, too. Then the woman need not take any pill. Your love becomes pure fun, pure joy, without any responsibility and burden.

 

And the woman should be educated, should be given all the opportunities to become an independent individual, financially and in every other respect, so that she is no longer dependent on you. An independent woman and an independent man, just out of friendship feel good to be with each other.

 

As long as they feel good they remain together. The moment they feel things are going wrong, there is no need to prolong the affair. They can say good bye with gratitude towards each other. No law is needed, no government permission, no social sanction is needed - because who are these people to interfere in your life?

 

Yes, society can only have a concern about the children because that is going to be the future society. Society cannot allow you to produce Adolf Hitlers. But society has not done anything to prevent it. And this can be prevented.

 

There is no need of calling it marriage or soulmates or any great words ... just hot air! Use simple words. You feel friendly towards someone and you feel joyous to be with the person. As long as you feel joyous it is valid. The moment trouble arises, you can separate. Marriage has created so much ugliness in the world, that you cannot conceive.

 

First, it has given accidental generations which are not produced out of understanding, out of a scientific approach, but just like animals, under the force, the blind force of biology; otherwise we can have so many beautiful people around. And the world does not consist only of a beautiful moon and beautiful stars, its greatest beauty is a beautiful person: physically, mentally, spiritually.

 

The by-products of marriage have been very strange. All religions are against prostitutes, but they are a by-product of marriage. In fact, prostitutes are a safety measure for marriage to remain, because by nature neither man is monogamous nor woman is monogamous. Monogamy is a kind of bondage, imprisonment. Why should you be so one-dimensional when life has given you all the opportunities of multidimensionality? No one can say whether tomorrow you may come across a woman and you may fall in love.

 

The society in a subtle way approves of prostitutes. It is an arrangement for men, when they get bored with their wives. And wives also have been accepting, down the ages, the existence of the prostitute because they know the prostitute is only a commodity, she is not a competitor. The husband may go there for one day, that"s all. She becomes more worried when the husband falls in love with some woman; then there is competition. With the prostitute there is no competition.

 

Prostitutes used to come to rich houses to dance and to give pleasure to the rich people, and it was accepted. The wife was not at all disturbed by it - because she is only a purchased woman, she will be gone tomorrow. It is not going to be a constant problem for her. But the woman was completely confined in monogamy. It is only just now, because of the women"s liberation movement in Europe and in America, that male prostitutes have become available. Now woman can also have the same opportunity that man has enjoyed for thousands of years. It is strange and ugly, but because we are going against nature we have to find some way to satisfy nature.

 

Polygamy is the nature of man and woman both, because polygamy is multidimensional, it is a freedom. If today I love someone and tomorrow I find someone who suits me more, then why should I be prevented? If tomorrow I find someone who is more harmonious with me, then why should I be prevented and kept in bondage? And of course, in this bondage I will be suffering and it will be a torture, and I will take revenge on the poor woman who has done nothing to me.

 

So one thing: the old superstition that love is monogamous has to be dropped - it is not. There is every evidence against it.

 

Secondly, the old superstition that love has to be permanent, only then is it true, is absolutely wrong.

 

If a roseflower is not permanent, do you think it is not real? And if you are so much interested in permanency, then you can have only plastic flowers, not real roses. Those plastic flowers don't die because they don't have any life, they are already dead. Love is a very living phenomenon. In fact, life comes to its highest peak in love.

 

Hence, there is every possibility that what has been today a great blessing, tomorrow may not be there. It is a breeze that comes and goes. We have to accept nature as it is. To create something unnatural is going to create perversions.

 

"I locked my husband out of the house last week for playing around with other women," confessed the attractive young housewife. "And now he wants me to take him back. What should I do, Father?"

 

"You must take him back, it is your Christian duty," replied the priest, patting her hand. "But," he added as his grip tightened, "how would you like to get even with the bastard?"

 

After all, your priest is also a human being. You have forced him into celibacy, so he has to find ways ... Fifty percent of the monks in a Christian monastery in Ethos have declared that they are homosexuals and they are going to remain homosexuals. You will be surprised to know that the archbishop of England has been considering a petition from many cardinals that homosexuality should be allowed, it is not against celibacy. A great idea!

 

The idea is that celibacy is only against heterosexual relationships. Homosexual relationship is not the question; it does not break the vow of celibacy. These poor priests, they are hung up in an unnatural situation. Naturally, they have to find some way through the back door. And they are enforcing unnaturalness on other people.

 

I have heard about a party of very super-rich people ... because the more rich you become, the more open you become with your perversions. You can afford it. The poor man will be condemned and crushed, will lose his job, but who can raise a finger against the super-rich? They have their private theaters in their own homes, where they can see blue movies. For them, special movies are created, absolutely ugly, of sex orgies.

 

There was a party of very super-rich people and they were playing a game, and the archbishop of the country was also invited. The game was so strange that the archbishop said, "I feel that I should retire. I cannot join in the game." He had come a little late so he had no idea that the game had already been going on. The game was that the lights would be turned off and all the men would stand naked and the women would find out, by touching their genitals, who the person was. If they can guess the right name, then they have the right to have the night with the person.

 

The archbishop said, "This goes against my religious ideology and I cannot participate." But the people laughed. They said, "Don't be a hypocrite, the game has been going on and your name has been proposed three times. All the women seem to know you perfectly well, so don't feel shy."

 

All these uglinesses are by-products.

 

Two little old ladies were chatting over the back yard fence. The first one boasted, "I went out with old man Cane last night and I had to slap him twice."

 

"To stop him?" asked the friend.

 

"No," she giggled, "to start him up."

 

He must be too old, maybe falling asleep. She had to slap him so he came to his senses ... what is he doing?

 

If you look at the back doors, it is a very hilarious situation. Marriage has proved ugly because it has perverted people into homosexuality, into sodomy, into all kinds of perversions, into pornography. It has given them the opportunity to make women slaves. Half of the population of the world has been deprived of all kinds of spiritual growth.

 

Women have asked again and again why there are not women as great as Gautam Buddha or Jesus or Zarathustra or Lao Tzu. Man has not allowed women even to be educated. He has not allowed women to have any financial independence. He has not allowed the woman free movement in society. At the most she can go to church. The only man available to her is the priest.

 

How can the woman become a Gautam Buddha? Gautam Buddhas don't grow on trees; neither they drop from the sky suddenly! They need roots in the earth and they need nourishment to grow.

 

The woman, in the past particularly, has been continually kept pregnant. She has been used like a factory for reproduction. And it was a biological necessity, because out of ten children, nine were dying and only one was surviving. So if you needed a few children, the wife had to be continually pregnant. There was no time for her to be a Gautam Buddha. She was not even accepted as equal to man.

 

Marriage has created the family: the unit of the society, the unit of the nation. Unless the family disappears, nations cannot disappear. And without the disappearance of nations, wars will continue, man will continue to butcher man. To me, marriage is one of the things that needs to be immediately abolished. With marriage abolished, prostitution will disappear. And everybody is miserable - husbands are miserable, wives are miserable.

 

I have been staying with thousands of families - everybody is miserable. And because I have been loved by so many people, the husband could open his heart to me, the wife could open her heart to me. Both are beautiful people, but together they are continuously at war. Every house has become a battlefield. And children are growing in this poisonous atmosphere. They will learn the same techniques and strategies and they will repeat them.

 

That"s how every generation goes on giving its diseases to the new generation. Generations change, diseases have become permanent. Now we have to drop the diseases, so that the future humanity can be free from all this ugliness.

 

Don't just give it a new name, change it from the very foundations.

 

Three young men arrived at the pearly gates together and St. Peter asked, "How did three healthy men like you die so soon?"

 

"Well," said the first, "it happened like this: I came home from work early one day and found my wife stark naked in bed, the bedcovers all a mess. I saw her glance at the open window, and so I looked out and saw a man running across the front yard. I raced into the kitchen, picked up the fridge, carried it back to the bedroom and hurled it out of the window at the running man. But unfortunately the effort was too much for me and I died."

 

"What about you?" St. Peter said to the second man.

 

"Well," he replied, "I don't know what the hell happened. I was late for an appointment so I ran out of my groundfloor apartment and some idiot dropped a fridge on my head and I died."

 

"And what about you?" said St. Peter to the third man.

 

"Well, Pete," said the man shyly, "it all started when I was in the fridge."

 

This is going on .... It is a hilarious situation.

 

Before she left her friend"s house one evening, aunt Emma was warned that a sex maniac was loose in the neighborhood. When she returned to her apartment, she cautiously looked under the bed, in her closet, and behind her curtains. Then Emma switched on the light.

 

"Well," she sighed, "he is not here, damn it!"

 

-Osho, "The New Dawn, #20, Q1"

 

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    Question 2 Osho, Tell me the way from sexuality to love. Sex is beautiful, sexuality ugly. And the difference has to be understood. Sex is a natural phenomenon; sexuality is unnatural, abnormal and pathological. When sex becomes cerebral, when sex enters into y...
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    Sex is the first surrender

    Question 1 Last night you discussed the attitude of total acceptance as the basic ground for all tantric sadhana — spiritual practice. if i remember correctly, on another day you said that the science of tantra teaches to be in the middle in everything, being f...
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    Sex has four stages : Sex contains SAMADHI, because life contains God.

    Question 1: One of the controversial issues about the rajneesh ashram concerns indulgence in sex and what are being condemned as sexual perversions or orgies. we would like bhagwan rajneesh to give us his views on sex and its role in transcendence. - R.K. Karan...
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    on Sex and Money, Person who represses sex becomes more money-minded

    Question 4 Osho, Why do i always feel that sex and money are somehow deeply connected with each other? Nirmal, they are connected. Money is power; hence it can be used in many ways. It can purchase sex, and down the ages that has been the case. Kings have been ...
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    It is not a question of West or East. Both are obsessed with sex

    Question 4: Osho, The west seems to be obsessed with sex. people are stuffed with endless techniques and porno images. why, in all this time, are people still stuck and unable to move into the tantric experience of sex, of love and of life? It is not a question...
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    The antagonism of religion against sex is ninety-nine percent stupid

    The antagonism of religion against sex is ninety-nine percent stupid, but there is one percent of truth which I cannot deny. But I have never talked about that one percent of truth to you because there is the danger that the one percent truth may deceive you an...
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    Sex : The forbidden fruit of the tree of knowledge

    Question 1 Osho, After eating the fruit of the tree of knowledge, adam and eve, for the first time, became aware of their nakedness and felt ashamed. what is the deeper meaning behind this feeling? And, secondly, it has been said that the forbidden fruit of the...
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    on difference between Sexual Power and Sexual Energy

    QUESTION : Osho, What is the difference between sexual power and sexual energy? Deva Agni, sexual energy is another name for your life force. The word sex has become condemned by the religions; otherwise there is nothing wrong in it. It is your very life. Sexua...
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    Sex is beautiful, sexuality ugly.

    Question : Osho, Tell me the way from sexuality to love. Amit Prem, sex is beautiful, sexuality ugly. And the difference has to be understood. Sex is a natural phenomenon; sexuality is unnatural, abnormal and pathological. When sex becomes cerebral, when sex en...
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    I am for richness in every dimension of life.

    Question 8 Osho, Why has sex always been included with anger, jealousy, cruelty, greed, possessiveness, violence, but never with fun, joy, love, playfulness, friendship and other great things that you have associated it with? Sex has nothing to do with jealousy...
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    Repressed Sexuality

    Question: Osho, I am seventy years old, and it feels embarrassing to be still longing for sex. What should I do? Jagat Narayan, the first thing is to accept your longing. Don’t reject it, don’t deny it, don’t repress it. It is because of repression that it cont...
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    on Attraction for Opposite Sex, Male Female Attraction

    When you are in the body too much you are always hankering for contact with other bodies, a lust to be in contact with other bodies — which you call love, which is not love, which is just a lust — because the body cannot exist alone. It exists in a network of o...
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    Can’t sex be transcended without going into it?

    Question 5 Can’t sex be transcended without going into it? Then what is the need to transcend it? The need of transcendence arises only because you are in it. You are born in it, you are born out of it. You are a sexual phenomenon. Except for Jesus, nobody has ...
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    on Repressed Sex - Hate for Sex

    Osho on Repressed Sex - Hate for Sex Question 4: I love my husband but i hate sex, and that creates conflict. isn't sex animalistic? It is. But man is an animal - as much of an animal as any other animal. But when I say that man is an animal, I don't mean that ...
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    I always dream of sex and sex and sex - why?

    Question : Osho, I always dream of sex and sex and sex - why? Ram Das, ARE YOU A FOLLOWER of Morarji Desai? Something is basically wrong with you. Your dreams simply show that you are living a repressed life. Your dreams reflect how you are living your life. Yo...
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    Why do I always get sexually excited when I see a Beautiful Woman?

    Question : Osho, Why do i always get sexually excited when i see a beautiful woman? Nanda Kishor, the first thing is that you are an Indian. It is very difficult for an Indian not to get excited when he sees a beautiful woman. Long long repression… your unconsc...
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    The more egoistic a person is, the more he is against sex.

    Question : Osho, Would you talk to us about the alternative to suppressing or expressing our emotions? Man is the only being who can suppress his energies — or who can transform them. No other being can do either.Suppression AND transformation, they exist as tw...
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    on Meditating on your Sexuality

    Osho on Meditating on your Sexuality Question: I feel stuck. I feel I have an essential being inside which wants to get out. It feels a lot more alive and dangerous than the one I drag around with me. It wants to grab girls and sexually enjoy. But you have said...
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    on Sexual suppression and freedom from Sex

    Osho on Sexual suppression and freedom from Sex Question: What is the difference between great sexual suppression and freedom from sex? On the surface, both have no interest in sex. How does suppressed sex bubble up? First, suppressed sex has more interest than...
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    To me Perversion only means that you become a Menace to others.

    [A sannyasin had previously written to Osho about her sexuality, which seemed to have become more intensified lately – mainly been through auto-erotic activity. Guilt feelings surfaced from childhood, about its being a perversion. Osho checked her energy.] I to...
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    Why has sex been a taboo in all the societies down the ages?

    Question 6 Why has sex been a taboo in all the societies down the ages? It is a very complicated question, but very important too -- worth going into. Sex is the most powerful instinct in man. The politician and the priest have understood from the very beginnin...
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    Pornography is an art, unless your mind is perverted.

    Question : Osho, What is your view of pornography and what are your views on the new morality of sexually free societies like Sweden? I will not condemn. I appreciate it. Sexually free societies are not degraded, rather, they have come to face the facts of life...
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    on Transformation of Sex Energy

    Question : Osho, Would you talk to us about using our sexual energy for growth, as it seems to be one of our main preoccupations in the west. Sex is the energy. So I will not say sexual energy — because there is no other energy. Sex is the only energy you have ...
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    What are your views on sexual ethics? - My sexual ethics is not a law, it is love.

    Question 1: Osho, What are your views on sexual ethics? My views on sexual ethics are against all the views that have been held up to now. They were all repressive of sex; they were condemnatory and created a split in the human mind. The whole schizophrenia and...
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    What is Pornography?

    Pornography is a by-product of religious repression Question What is Pornography? And why does it have so much Appeal? Pornography is a by-product of religious repression. The whole credit goes to the priests. Pornography has nothing to do with pornographers. T...
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    In the East, to get rid of sex is a blessing; in the West, it is the ultimate calamity

    Question : Osho, Could dry leaves really be falling at such a young age? i am thirty, and i enjoy sex when it comes, though i don’t come so often. i don’t feel i am holding something down; on the contrary, i find i usually have to hold it up. Beloved Osho, it n...
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    Sex simply means energy being dissipated downwards

    Question : Osho, Why am I Tired of Sex? Sandhan, sex is tiring — and that’s why I say to you: Don’t avoid it. Unless you know its stupidity you will not be able to get rid of it. Unless you know its sheer wastage, you will not be able to transcend it. It is goo...
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    Pornography is a by-product of your so-called religions.

    Question : Osho, There is a great deal of hypocrisy in india about sex. people are not even willing to discuss it openly, yet there is a growing proliferation of, and obsession with, nude pictures. will this flood of pornography help? can it finally bring sex o...
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    All that is beautiful is sexual

    Question 1 I was doing sadhana under the guidance of some other teacher. At that time i had no problem of sex. But tensions existed there in my mind. After coming to your shelter tensions have disappeared but a new problem of sex has arisen. Due to sex a new te...
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    The reality is: both are polygamous.

    Question 3 Osho, Whenever, i am in love with a man, for those years no other man attracts me. but for the man, it's not the same. though he is happy and satisfied with me, and wants to keep the relationship with me, he has his short love affairs every few month...
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    What is sexual perversion? for example, sado-masochism.

    Question 3 What is sexual perversion? why do strange sexual habits evolve, and from where? for example, sado-masochism. Man is not what he appears to be, he is far bigger. We know about man only in a very partial way. You will have to understand these five cate...
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    What is your definition of Perversion in regard to Sex?

    Question : Osho, What is your definition of Perversion in regard to Sex? Sarjano, perversion means your energy is not going in the natural way; the natural way has been blocked, suppressed, condemned. But the energy is there and collecting, it is bound to find ...
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    on Witnessing the Sex Act

    Osho on Witnessing the Sex Act Stand aside. Be a witness. Remember this word ’witness’. This is one of the key words in the search for spirituality. If you can understand this word and practice it, you don’t need anything else. Even this one key will open all t...
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    Why are you called "the sex guru" in the west?

    The people who call me ‘sex guru’ are obsessed with sex. Question 2 Osho, Why are you called "the sex guru" in the west? It is a long, long stupid Christian tradition in the West -- of repression, of deep antagonism against life, life energies. That has provoke...
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    Sex has been called the original sin - it is neither original nor sin.

    Question 3 Osho, I find myself mostly attracted to women and very rarely deeply to a man. i am a little bothered about it. could you please say something about it? Sex has been called the original sin - it is neither original nor sin. Even before Adam and Eve e...
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    Sexual orgasm is very momentary, and whatsoever is momentary brings frustration

    Unless you know something which cannot be sold and cannot be purchased, unless you know something which is beyond money, you have not known real life. Sex is not beyond money — love is. Transform your sex into love, and transform your love into prayer — so one ...
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    on Sex obsession - The West is indulgent, the East is repressive, but the obsession is the same

    Question 4 : Osho, The west seems to be obsessed with sex. people are stuffed with endless techniques and porno images. why, in all this time, are people still stuck and unable to move into the tantric experience of sex, of love and of life? Prem Karin, it is n...
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    on Sex addictions

    Question6 : Osho, Do we have to transcend sex before getting enlightened? You don't have to transcend anything. You have to live everything that is natural to you, and live it fully, without any inhibition -- joyously, aesthetically. Just by living it deeply, a...
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    Your sex act and the tantric sex act are basically different. Your sex act is to relieve

    Question 2 How often should one indulge in sex in order to help and not to hinder the meditation process? The question arises because we go on misunderstanding. Your sex act and the tantric sex act are basically different. Your sex act is to relieve; it is just...
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    Osho on Draupadi

    Osho on Draupadi Up to now, mankind has thought of love in terms of petty relationship -- relationship between two persons. We have yet to know love that is a state of mind, and not just relationship. And this is what comes in our way of understanding Draupadi ...
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    Transcending the Basic Duality of Sex

    Transcending the Basic Duality of Sex Life is not there at its maximum when you are born; it is at its minimum. If you do stick at that, you will have a life which is just near death – just a borderline life. By birth, only an opportunity is given, only an open...
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    Be true to love, and don't bother about partners.

    Question 4 In the east, it has been stressed that one should stay with a person, one person, in a love relationship. in the west, now people float from one relationship to another. which are you in favor of? I am in favor of love. Let me explain it to you: be t...
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    Don’t condemn; don’t suppress. Transform. Be more understanding, alert

    Question : Is it possible to climb on to higher stages while one is suppressing or excluding parts of his being by outside conditions and illusions? No, it is impossible. You are asking me, “Is it possible to go up the ladder only in part?” Some part of you is ...
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    What is it to be Master of one’s Sexual Energy

    Question : What is it to be Master of one’s Sexual Energy? VEERESHWAR, TO THINK IN TERMS OF DUALITY IS ALWAYS DANGEROUS. To divide yourself in two is to move towards a split. You are one! How can there be a master and a slave? The very idea is poison. And it ha...
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    Kissing is more Erotic in a society where breast-feeding is less

    [The tantra group is present. One participant says she feels dead and not in touch with her sexual energy at all. Osho checks her energy.] It has nothing to do with your sexual energy; it has something to do with your throat, but they are connected. The first p...
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    on Sex Obsession In The East : Indulgence & Repression

    Osho Describes Sex Obsession In The East Question 4 Osho, The west seems to be obsessed with sex. people are stuffed with endless techniques and porno images. why, in all this time, are people still stuck and unable to move into the tantric experience of sex, o...
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    on Forced Celibacy - Real Celibacy comes naturally

    Question : I have been a hindu monk for seven years. I had been told to be a celibate, so i forced it upon myself. It was very arduous but somehow i succeeded, at least physically, in it. But then the whole thing went into my head. Now i constantly think of sex...
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    Sleepy person knows only a few sensations of the body food, sex

    Question 2 Osho, What is Happiness? Jayananda, it depends. It depends on you, on your state of consciousness or unconsciousness, whether you are asleep or awake. There is one famous maxim of Murphy. He says there are two types of people: One, who always divide ...
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    Sex, Love and Compassion : Sexuality and romantic love are ill, unhealthy.

    Question 3: You have spoken of sex, love and compassion. i know what sex without love is, and i have known romantic love based on unfulfilled desires. but what is real love without sex? What is compassion? Man has three layers: the body, the mind and the soul. ...
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    Self energy from sex energy

    Life can be viewed in two ways in all its layers. Life has two aspects — one is material, and the other is spiritual. It is necessary to examine sex also from these two directions. One aspect of sex is biological which is linked with the body and its particles....
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    One has to go beyond sex.

    Question : When two Women or two Men are making love to each other. Does it do any harm to their energies? Love is always preferable to lovelessness — that is the first thing to be remembered. Love in any kind and any form is more preferable than lovelessness. ...
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    on Men Menopause - Somewhere near around forty-nine there comes a menopause… for men too, not only for women.

    [A forty-eight-year-old sannyasin says he still has a sexual block which he experiences as an unwillingness to say what he really wants when he is with a woman. He has noticed too, that his sexuality seems to be on the decline…. ] That time is the time, mm? Som...
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    on Eroticism - This was used as a meditation technique in Khajuraho. In the West it is used to create more thirst for the same sexuality

    Question : Osho, In the west, the portrayal of woman’s body is used in films, books and magazines. This art form is known as ‘eroticism’. Through the sculptures of khajuraho and ajanta i have seen that a similar art form was there in the east. Can you talk abou...
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    Celibacy is Repressive, You suppress your sex energy

    Celibacy is repressive — you suppress your sex energy — and that suppression never leads to transformation. But there are ways in which your godliness is revealed to you: suddenly, sex disappears. Not that it is suppressed. In that godliness the energy takes a ...
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    Sex has become synonymous with life in the West

    [A sannyasin says he is afraid of sex and his partner also feels low sex energy. Osho checks his energy.] My feeling is that your need for sex is almost nil. If you had been in the East you would have rejoiced, because you are a born celibate, and in the East p...
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    That the attitude towards sex is a very symbolic attitude; it shows everything about your whole life.

    [A sannyasin says: I have a sexual problem... of wishing that no one had ever told me that sex existed. And I feel there's something very wrong with me all the time.... I think before I never allowed myself to look at it. I wanted to pretend I enjoyed it.] Some...
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    Sex is the nearest to Brahman

    The mind is abstract. It cannot touch, it cannot see, it cannot hear. It can only think. Thinking is abstract. Thoughts move just in a vacuum. Thoughts have no substance. They cannot be touched, cannot be heard, cannot be felt. So mind is the most abstract facu...
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    It rarely happens that a person dies with God on his mind

    BAULS say that there is only one way to come out of the stupor man lives in, and that is remembrance of God: NAM-SMARAN, remembrance of His name. That has always been part of the basic techniques on the path of love — to remember Him. And when a devotee, with d...
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    on Sex and Love – Sex has to become a meditation

    Love can exist on many planes. It is like a ladder with many rungs which run from the lowest to the highest, from the earthly to the heavenly. The lowest kind of love expresses itself as sex. It is gross, it is physical, biological, chemical, hormonal. But ther...
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    I don’t see anything wrong in Sex, in Love, in Romance

    Question : You say, remove all your masks and be authentic. i think only of sex, love and romance. i don’t know anything else except this. am i on the wrong track? I don’t see anything wrong in sex, in love, in romance. You are on the right track. Love is the r...
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    My effort here is to help you to go beyond it

    Now the day has come when homosexuality can be accepted, should be accepted as a natural outlet of your sexual energies. I am not against it, I am not for it either. I am simply saying that if you have to live your sex you can choose your style, you are free to...
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    Why Sex Somehow not feel Right?

    Question 3 I certainly have not transcended sex. why then, each time i go into it, does it somehow not feel right? It does not feel right because you have not yet gone into it ever, or you have gone only so far but not far enough. You have gone into it only wit...
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    The Expression Dirty Old Man

    Question 4 Osho, Why is there such an expression as “the dirty old man”? I am Getting on and I suspect people are beginning to think about me in Exactly those words. It is because of a long, long repressive society that the dirty old man exists. It is because o...
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    Woman's wings have been cut in many ways

    Question 1 Osho, I feel so imprisoned by the fear of being intimate and totally losing control with a man. this outrageous woman is locked up inside. when she comes out once in a while, men usually freak out, so she goes back into hibernation, plays safe, and i...
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    Love Or Mutual Masturbation!

    In India we have pictured Shiva as Ardhanarishwar – half-man, half-woman. That is the only symbol of its type all over the world. Shiva – half is man, half is woman; half Shiva and half Parvati, his consort. Half the body is of man and half of woman: Ardhanaris...
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    Releasing Sexual Energy

    [A sannyasin had previously asked Osho about a dizzy sensation in his head since he was laid up with an illness. Osho told him it was just energy in the head not being properly channelled and suggested he do the tantra group. He missed the group, and says the s...
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    Repression of sex is evil

    If sex is not a natural desire in you, to force it will be a repression Question Osho, I never have sex and I don't feel like having sex. I don't think that I am beyond sex, but I love meditation and dancing much more, although it is difficult to accept this. S...
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    Sex, Love and Prayer : Energy itself is neutral. When it is expressed biologically, it is sex.

    Question 1 Please describe to us the spiritual significance of sex energy. how can we sublimate and spiritualize sex? is it possible to have sex, to make love, as a meditation, as a jumping board toward higher levels of consciousness? There is no such thing as ...
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    Sexuality has become confined to the genitals; it has become local, it is no longer total. Local genitality is ugly

    You have taken all your energy into your head, you have not left any energy for your sexuality -- because all joy is out of sexuality, let me remind you. When I use the word 'sexuality' I don't just mean genitality. The genital is only one very, very tiny exper...
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    on meditation for Dealing with Sexuality, Sex Thoughts

    [A sannyasin who had been celibate for several months on Osho’s suggestion, said she had been feeling very sexual lately and did not know what she should do about it.] Just do one thing whenever it happens again. Sit straight – on a chair or on the floor – with...
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    Never reduce anybody to being just a sexual object

    People look at each other, but they don't look at each other at all. They are just looking for the sex object. A woman passes. Have you ever seen a woman as a being? Sometimes you become interested in a woman, but not as a being. You feel a certain attraction, ...
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