Don't be worried about the woman who is going crazy.
And man has taught woman that it is only prostitutes who enjoy sex. They moan and they groan and they scream, and they go almost crazy; to be a respectable lady you should not do such things. So the woman remains tense, and feels humiliated deep down -- that she has been used. And many women have reported to me that after making love, when their husband goes on snoring, they have wept.
A woman is almost like a musical instrument; her whole body has immense sensitivity, and that sensitivity should be aroused. So there is a need for foreplay. And after making love, the man should not go to sleep; that is ugly, uncivilized, uncultured. A woman who has given you such joy needs some afterplay too -- just out of gratitude. [....]
Woman's wings have been cut in many ways.
And the greatest harm that has been done to her is marriage, because neither man nor woman is monogamous; psychologically they are polygamous. So their whole psychology has been forced against its own nature. And because woman was dependent on man she had to suffer all kinds of insults -- because man was the master, he was the owner, he had all the money.
To satisfy his polygamous nature, man created prostitutes. Prostitutes are a by-product of marriage.
And this ugly institution of prostitution will not disappear from the world unless marriage disappears. It is its shadow -- because man does not want to be tied to a monogamous relationship, and he has the freedom of movement, he has the money, he has the education, he has all the power. He invented prostitutes; and to destroy a woman by making her a prostitute is the ugliest murder you can do.
The strange fact is, all religions are against prostitution -- and they are the cause of it. They are all for marriage, and they cannot see a simple fact -- that prostitution came into existence with marriage.
Now the women's liberation movement is trying to imitate all the stupidities that men have done to women. In London, in New York, in San Francisco, you can find male prostitutes. That is a new phenomenon. This is not a revolutionary step, this is a reactionary step.
The problem is that unless you lose control while making love, you will not have an orgasmic experience. So at least my people should be more understanding, that the woman will moan and groan and scream. It is because her whole body is involved -- total involvement.
You need not be afraid of that. It is tremendously healing: she will not be bitchy towards you, and she will not nag you, because all the energy that becomes bitchiness has been transformed into an immense joy. And don't be afraid about the neighbors -- it is their problem if they are worried about your groaning and moaning, it is not your problem. You are not preventing them....
Make your love a really festive affair, don't make it a hit and run affair. Dance, sing, play music -- and don't let sex be cerebral. Cerebral sex is not authentic; sex should be spontaneous.
Create the situation. Your bedroom should be a place as holy as a temple. In your bedroom don't do anything else; sing and dance and play, and if love happens on its own, as a spontaneous thing, you will be immensely surprised that biology has given you a glimpse of meditation.
And don't be worried about the woman who is going crazy. She has to go crazy -- her whole body is in a totally different space. She cannot remain in control; if she controls it she will remain like a corpse. Millions of people are making love to corpses. [....]
You should drop the fear of being intimate and totally losing control with a man. Let the idiot be afraid; if he wants to be afraid, that is his business. You should be authentic and true to yourself. You are lying to yourself, you are deceiving yourself, you are destroying yourself.
What is the harm if the man freaks out and runs out of the room naked? Close the door! Let the whole neighborhood know that this man is mad. But you need not control your possibility of having an orgasmic experience. The orgasmic experience is the experience of merging and melting, egolessness, mindlessness, timelessness.
This may trigger your search for finding a way that, without any man, without any partner, you can drop the mind, you can drop time, and you can enter into orgasmic joy on your own. I call this authentic meditation.
-Osho, "The Razor's Edge, #26, Q1"