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Help people to attain a loving insight into their lives, help people to love themselves

 

[A sannyasin expresses concern about being a sannyasin in the West. She works in a personnel at a university. Osho says that is good work, and love is needed more than expertise…. ]

 

 

The therapist, the counsellor, has to love the patients so deeply, so totally, that in his love something starts in the patient. Under that impact of love he also can see the problems in their true perspective.

 

Problems are not really problems: the only problem is that people have become blind. They live with the problems for years and they can’t see it. Expertise can help you to dissect the problem, to analyse the problem, to go to its roots, to its causes, implications, and you can make the person intellectually understand, but that is not going to help really. It may make the person a little more adjusted but nothing much else. The problem will start asserting itself from somewhere else. It will find some new way to surface, in a new name it will continue, because the man has not really attained to insight.

 

If you attain to insight then solving one problem is solving all problems, because then you always have that insight with you: you can focus that insight on any problem and it starts disappearing. By becoming a sannyasin you naturally become more loving. My sannyas is sannyas into love, initiation into love… and with love you can see the problem of the other person.

 

So don’t sit there like an inhuman expert: come closer, more personally to the person, because his problems are your problems – they are everybody’s problems, they are human problems. There is not a single problem which cannot be your problem, and you cannot have any problem which cannot be anybody else’s problem… we share.

 

So don’t let the patient feel that it is his problem and he has come to a computer, an expert. Let him feel he has come to a human being – as frail, as limited, as prone to mistakes as he himself. Then an understanding arises, the person starts opening, and in the light of your love and care, he can start seeing something which he was not able to see before.

 

Help people to attain a loving insight into their lives, help people to love themselves, and problems will start disappearing: They have been taught to hate themselves, they have been taught condemnation and nothing else, hence so many problems. Help them to accept themselves, help them not to be perfectionists. That’s how millions of problems arise….

 

The perfectionistic mind is a neurotic mind. The perfectionist hankers for the impossible, so he always falls short. He cannot reach the goal, he is frustrated; then he starts thinking that something is wrong. He asks the impossible – it cannot happen by its very nature. Then he feels he has some defects. He loses self-confidence, and then small problems look like big problems; he cannot tackle them, he becomes nervous. He starts avoiding the problems, he goes on putting them aside. He hopes time will do something, and it never does anything.

 

The problems put aside become bigger and bigger; as time passes they become more bigger and more rooted. Perhaps if they were tackled in the very beginning they would not have been such a great nuisance. Later on they become very very difficult because they go deep into the blood; they start poisoning the whole system.

 

So bring people to love and accept themselves and tell them whatsoever they are is perfect… it is absolutely blissful the way they are! Once this feeling arises in a person – that he is absolutely okay – ninety-nine percent of problems have disappeared, and only one problem remains, and that problem nobody can dissolve. That problem is something which is existential – that is the problem of ’Who am I?’ For that problem the person has to go into the deepest core of his being. Help people to meditate, talk about meditation, help them to become more aware of dynamic methods of meditation.

 

America has become alert about the passive methods of meditation. They cannot help much because america basically is an active country. Passive methods cannot help america – they may give a little solace, consolation, but finally they will prove to be like tranquillisers, nothing more. Only very very active and creative methods can be helpful. And tensions have not to be dissolved; tensions have to be transformed.

 

If a person simply dissolves tensions he will become uncreative. That’s what happens through ’TM’ and other methods. They talk about it being very creative – it is just nonsense: it cannot be creative! Take away tension, then who bothers about creativity? The person becomes relaxed, but with relaxation he becomes detached too; with relaxation he starts looking at life as useless, meaningless. Tensions have to be transformed, tensions have to be used in a creative way so that they don’t destroy you – rather they create something.

 

India has suffered very much from these methods, in-active methods of meditation. The whole poverty of this country is because of these methods. For thousands of years we have been just drowning in ourselves, not thinking of anything else – not thinking of the society, not thinking of better roads, not thinking of better housing, not thinking of better food, not thinking of better hygiene – nothing! If a person can just close his eyes and be silent, we think enough is achieved.

 

Yes, this person will not go mad, that is certain, but just not going mad is not enough. It is not a qualification that you are not mad, that you sleep well, that you are not very tense. Good, but nothing to brag about. Something creative should be born out of your silence. So my emphasis is basically on active methods. Silence should come but through activity, creativity – through painting, dance, music… it should remain continuously joined with action so it does not annihilate action; on the contrary it enhances it.

 

So help people – your work is beautiful! Wherever people come in contact with people it is a beautiful work. When people work only with tools, mechanical tools, it is not very happy work because if you work too long with machines you become… you tend to become a machine. If you work with people you remain alive.

 

- Osho, ”This Is It, #7”

 

 

 


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    Don't try to be a guru, don't try to be a helper.

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    on difference between helping others and trying to change others

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    Generosity is the real richness.

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    None of My Sannyasins are to Become Saviors

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    Give, give for giving's sake. Share for sharing's sake.

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    The people who are miserly will remain miserly, even in their sharing

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    Speak the truth, whatsoever the cost.

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    Start giving more. You will get, but one gets only by giving

    [A woman sannyasin says: I’m miserable. I want to keep being cuddled by a woman and I’m not getting it. I keep withdrawing from everything around me.] You have to learn to give. You only ask – and that creates the trouble. It is not a question of man or woman; ...
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    on Beggars and Begging – What can i do with a Beggar?

    Question : What can i do with a beggar? whether i give him a rupee or not, he will remain a beggar all the same. THE beggar is not the problem. If the beggar was the problem then everybody who passes by would feel the same. If the beggar was the problem then be...
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    on Charity – Charity is a beautiful flowering of one who has

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    The courage to leap into the void is man's only true courage

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    Every giving has to be unconditional.

    Question 2 : Osho, Someone once told me the saying: “all that you put into the lives of others comes back into your own. “it has been with me ever since, and i feel it to be true. Can you please talk about this? it keeps coming up a lot for me. Prem Kendra, the...
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    The help can only be indirect; it can never be direct.

    [A sannyasin who is returning to the west says she is afraid about meeting her old friend who is a marxist: He is in search of truth and I too. He has found something and I have found something. He has known me for so long and has given me so much love… ] I kno...
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    Share as much as you can, and the more you will be given.

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    on missionaries and sharing – Never try to think in terms of missionaries

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    Nobody should in any way interfere in anybody else’s life

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    Hoarding poisons the heart. All hoarding is poisonous

    The real thing is not what you are giving — pearls and holiness and love — and TO WHOM you are giving; that is not the point. The point is that you are giving. When you have, give it. Gurdjieff used to say, “All that I hoarded was lost, and all that I gave is m...
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    Don’t be a do-gooder

    Now, two more diseases, two more complexes, two more illusions. We discussed three in the night: mind, lust for life, and desiring. Now the fourth is sattva – it means virtue. It means an inner accumulation of being good. This feeling of being good is also a di...
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    on Temptation to help others

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    All that you put into the lives of others comes back into your own

    Question : Osho, Someone once told me the saying: “all that you put into the lives of others comes back into your own. “it has been with me ever since, and i feel it to be true. Can you please talk about this? it keeps coming up a lot for me. Prem Kendra, the s...
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    Osho on Sharing

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    on Mercy – Unless mercy is absolutely egoless it is not authentic

    Mercy can be of two kinds. It can be very egoistic, then it only appears as mercy but is not; unless mercy is absolutely egoless it is not authentic. And the difference is very subtle: from the outside there is no difference at all but one can feel the differen...
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    Whatsoever you have, share it

    Question 3: What role should charity play in the life of a sannyasin? The question is not from a sannyasin - it is from Philip Martin. The first thing, Philip Martin, become a sannyasin. You should not ask questions about others; that is not gentlemanly. You sh...
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    Be Altruistic only when your own self is fulfilled

    Buddha says There are needy people all around. There are ill people, there are poor people, there are paralyzed people and blind and deaf and lame. If you start serving all these people you will forget the real work. That’s what has happened to the Christian mi...
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    Before you start helping others, live it in all possible ways

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    on Helping Others – When you help others you have moved out of your own Ego

    [Osho suggested to a sannyasin to start a small meditation centre.] It will be good for you also. This is my observation, that there are many things that you learn only when you start teaching them. The best way to learn a thing is to teach it. And you grow mor...
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    When you feel that you are filled with bliss, express it. Share it

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    Help people to attain a loving insight into their lives, help people to love themselves

    [A sannyasin expresses concern about being a sannyasin in the West. She works in a personnel at a university. Osho says that is good work, and love is needed more than expertise…. ] The therapist, the counsellor, has to love the patients so deeply, so totally, ...
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    Share more, and let sharing be the only law. To be a miser is to be a sinner

    [A sannyasin says he has a tension in his head and: ’I am not very loving and… I don’t feel very good about myself’.] Mm… that may be the tension – because love is a release. If you are loving you remain relaxed. If you are not loving you become tense. Tension ...
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