https://oshofriends.com/dictionary/69402Premarital Relationships
Unless a man or a woman has lived in many pre-marital relationships there is no possibility of choosing a right partner. This is such a simple phenomenal! Unless you have experienced many women and men in your life, how can you choose who is going to be the right person to live with?
But they don't allow any pre-marital relationships, so people start falling in love at first sight -- which is nonsense. Then, of course, the same people say love is blind. First they throw acid in your eyes and then they say love is blind! You see the strategy? Don't allow boys and girls to meet and mingle with each other so that they can experience many people before they decide -- don't allow them. Suffocate their sexual energy!
Boys and girls become sexually mature at thirteen and fourteen, but they will get married after their twenty-fifth year, near about thirty. For these fifteen, sixteen years, when they have been sexually the most potent... because the boy is the most sexually powerful at the age of seventeen and eighteen. Never again will he have the same power, never again will he have the same youthful vigor. By the time he gets married he is already old; then you start calling him a dirty old man. Strange logic! When he is young you don't allow him; because you don't allow him his whole sexuality starts getting into his head, it becomes cerebral. Then he is dirty -- because the head is the only little space where the sexuality can go, otherwise where does it have to go? You don't allow any outlet so it starts accumulating in the head. That is the only place -- the basement, where you go on throwing anything which is not allowed. It is in the unconscious part of the mind that it accumulates.
By the time you allow, he is so obsessed with sex that he falls in love at first sight. Just keep anybody hungry for fifteen years, and then do you think he will think,'What food to chose?" Any food, any rotten banana... and love at first sight! And then you call love blind: "Look at this fool -- he has fallen in love with a rotten banana!" And you are the cause of it -- just keeping him hungry for so many days....
Just try one week's fast and then see what happens. Your whole mind will be full of food -- spaghetti, spaghetti, spaghetti... I And the brain looks almost like spaghetti! And then you fall in love -- you see spaghetti and you fall in love immediately! There is no time. Who bothers about what it is? "First eat and then we will see!
Pre-marital relationship is a very scientific phenomenon. It has to be allowed, it has to become part of human rights. It should be one of the basic rights of every human being to have love relationships before one decides for some intimacy, to live with somebody for a longer period. I will not say for your whole life, because who knows? -- life is a big thing! -- but for a longer period. Tomorrow you may find a far more beautiful woman, a far more beautiful man, then your intelligence will say that it is better to choose. Then why go on being tortured by your past? Remain free for the future, open to the future. So I say only for a longer period, when you decide.
When you have enjoyed many relationships you will be able to choose, you will be able to judge what kind of woman or man suits you, what kind of woman or man is a nourishment.
I am all for pre-marital relationships. Without them man will remain insane.
-Osho, "Philosophia Ultima, #3, Q1"
