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Anger

 

 

Anger is just a mental vomit. Something is wrong that you have taken in and your whole psychic being wants to throw it out, but there is no need to throw it out on somebody. Because people throw it on others, society tells them to control it.

 

There is no need to throw anger on anybody. You can go to your bathroom, you can go on a long walk -- it means that something is inside that needs fast activity so that it is released. Just do a little jogging and you will feel it is released, or take a pillow and beat the pillow, fight with the pillow, and bite the pillow until your hands and teeth are relaxed. Within a five-minute catharsis you will feel unburdened, and once you know this you will never throw it on anybody, because that is absolutely foolish.

 

The first thing in transformation then is to express anger, but not on anybody, because if you express it on somebody you cannot express it totally. You may like to kill, but it is not possible; you may like to bite, but it is not possible. But that can be done to a pillow. A pillow means 'already enlightened'; the pillow is enlightened, a buddha. The pillow will not react, and the pillow will not go to any court, and the pillow will not bring any enmity against you, and the pillow will not DO anything. The pillow will be happy, and the pillow will laugh at you.

 

The second thing to remember: be aware. In controlling, no awareness is needed; you simply do it mechanically, like a robot. The anger comes and there is a mechanism -- suddenly your whole being becomes narrow and closed. If you are watchful control may not be so easy.

 

Society never teaches you to be watchful, because when somebody is watchful, he is wide open. That is part of awareness -- one is open, and if you want to suppress something and you are open, it is contradictory, it may come out. The society teaches you how to close yourself in, how to cave yourself in -- don't allow even a small window for anything to go out.

 

But remember: when nothing goes out, nothing comes in either. When the anger cannot go out, you are closed. If you touch a beautiful rock, nothing goes in; you look at a flower, nothing goes in: your eyes are dead and closed. You kiss a person -- nothing goes in, because you are closed. You live an insensitive life.

 

Sensitivity grows with awareness. Through control you become dull and dead -- that is part of the mechanism of control: if you are dull and dead then nothing will affect you, as if the body has become a citadel, a defense. Nothing will affect you, neither insult nor love.

 

But this control is at a very great cost, an unnecessary cost; then it becomes the whole effort in life: how to control yourself -- and then die! The whole effort of control takes all your energy, and then you simply die. And the life becomes a dull and dead thing; you somehow carry it on.

 

The society teaches you control and condemnation, because a child will control only when he feels something is condemned. Anger is bad; sex is bad; everything that has to be controlled has to be made to look like a sin to the child, to look like evil.

 

-Osho, "And The Flowers Showered, #3"

 

 

 

 

When you are angry with someone and you throw your anger on him, you are creating a chain reaction. Now he too will be angry. This may continue for lives and you will go on being enemies. How can you end it? There is only one possibility. You can end it only in meditation, nowhere else, because in meditation you are not angry with someone: you are simply angry.

 

This difference is basic. You are not angry with someone. You are simply angry and the anger is released into the cosmos. You are not hateful towards anyone. If hate comes, you are simply hateful and the hate is thrown out. In meditation, emotions are not addressed. They are unaddressed. They move into the cosmos, and the cosmos purifies everything.

 

It is just like a dirty river falling into the ocean: the ocean will purify it. Whenever your anger, your hate, your sexuality, moves into the cosmos, into the ocean - it purifies it. If a dirty river falls into another river, then the other river also becomes dirty. When you are angry with someone, you are throwing your dirt at him. Then he will also throw his at you and this will become a mutual dirtying process.

 

In meditation you are throwing yourself into the cosmos to be purified. All the energy that you throw is purified in the cosmos. The cosmos is so vast and so great an ocean, you cannot make it dirty. In meditation we are not related with persons. In meditation we are related directly to the cosmos.

 

-Osho, "The Supreme Doctrine, #6"

 

 

 

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Osho Dictionary

A Spiritual Dictionary for the Here and Now

List of Articles
No. Category Subject
74 A Absolute : A man of truth is always relative.
73 A Abstinence : You can be a celibate, but to be a celibate does not mean to go beyond sexuality.
72 A Abstractions : Because you can't love human beings you start loving humanity just to deceive yourself. Avoid abstractions.
71 A Absurd : The absurd is nothing but another name of God
70 A Absurdity : Collect as many absurdities in your life as possible.
69 A Accept yourself : Accept yourself as you are, and accept totally, unconditionally. That is the way God wants you to be
68 A Accept Yourself : This is the first step of Unio Mystica: be one with yourself.
67 A Acceptance : Accepting is another name for Let Go
66 A Acceptance : If somebody hits you, bow down your head, accept it with gratitude.
65 A Accidental : Become a little more conscious. See what is happening.
64 A Accidents : Consciousness can be, and without content. So that accident was a blessing.
63 A Accidents : life goes ahead and your mind is past-oriented
62 A Acharya : He knows exactly what he’s teaching, but not on his own authority.
61 A Act : You will create a chain of reactions and you will get into karma.
60 A Acting : The really spiritual person transforms his whole life into an acting.
59 A Action : You have to use action to attain non-action.
58 A Action and Activity : Action is when the situation demands it, you act, you respond. Activity is when the situation doesn't matter, it is not a response
57 A Active Meditation : All traditional methods have become irrelevant.
56 A Activity : Action is not activity; activity is not action.
55 A Activity : Activity has utility, action is pure joy, pure beauty.
54 A Acupuncture : Acupuncture deals with the cause. Never deal with the effect
53 A Adam's Apple : Adam became knowledgeable, hence the fall. So knowledge is the fall.
52 A Adam's Apple : I am against all kinds of enforced things.
51 A Admiration : One wants to be admired because one has no respect for oneself.
50 A Adultery : The real meaning of adultery is making love while you are not in love.
49 A Advaita : Advaita means not two
48 A Advaita : Existence Is Advaita
47 A Advertising : It hypnotized you.
46 A Advice : Listen, but don’t follow.
45 A Ageing (Aging) : You are just pure consciousness
44 A Aging : Change beautifies everything.
43 A Ah : Ah, this cake is delicious
42 A AIDS : Perversion requires the basic condition that you are fed up with changing women, you want something new.
41 A Alchemy : How to change the negative into the positive
40 A Alcohol : Nothing but a chemical strategy to forget your miseries, anxieties, your problems, to forget yourself.
39 A Alertness : If you are alert, if your actions become more and more aware
38 A Alienation : He is an uprooted tree. He has forgotten how to relate with existence
37 A Alone : The person who is not able to be alone cannot be together with somebody, because he has no individuality.
36 A Aloneness : Rejoicing in Your Own Aloneness
35 A Aloneness : We are born alone, we live alone, and we die alone
34 A Ambition : Nothing kills love more than Ambitiousness
33 A Ambition : The result of an inferiority complex
32 A Ambition : The root cause
31 A Amen : It simply means "Yes, Lord, yes. Let thy will be done.
30 A Analysis : The beauty is something more, hence in analysis it disappears.
29 A Androgyny : Where your man and woman inside meet and mingle and disappear into each other.
28 A Angels : You are simply creating belief systems to cling to.
» A Anger : Anger is just a mental vomit.
26 A Anger : If anger rages within, shout, cry, jump, talk, babble, do whatever you please
25 A Anguish : Anguish is, in short, the quest of who you are.
24 A Anguish : God is not responsible for your stupidity. It is your own work.
23 A Anguish : The anguish of not knowing oneself
22 A Answer : To Be Questionless is the Answer
21 A Anti Christ : The people who established Christianity, they are the Antichrist.
20 A Apology : We don't try to reform ourselves, we only try to reform our image.
19 A Art : If it leads you towards God, it is true art, it is authentic art.
18 A Art : To be a painter, you have to drop the ego
17 A Art, Objective : Objective art means something that helps you to become centered
16 A Asleep : Man is asleep – man lives in a deep slumber
15 A Assertion (Assertive) : Everybody has to be assertive, not aggressive.
14 A Astrology : Astrology is an investigation into the possibility that whatever is happening anywhere in the universe also affects man.
13 A Astrology : The Science of Cosmic Oneness
12 A Atheism : Just as the theists are blind, so are the atheists. Both are believers.
11 A Attachment : Attachment means clinging to something, wanting it the way it is forever.
10 A Attention : If you pay much attention to suffering, you help it to grow. If you pay much attention to happiness, you help it to grow.
9 A Aum : The primordial sound of which the whole universe consists
8 A Aum : The symbol of the seventh body
7 A Austerity : Austerity does not mean torture; austerity means a simple life, an austere life.
6 A Authenticity : To be authentic means to be true to oneself.
5 A Authoritative : Authoritarian People are suffering from Inferiority Complex
4 A Autohypnosis : You create illnesses! You believe in them.
3 A Average : You will drop your averageness. It is just forced on you.
2 A Avoidance : The harder you try to avoid it, the more focused you become on it.
1 A Awareness : The Seed of Godliness in You
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