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How does this mechanism of hope function? Whenever you are in misery, sad, depressed, you immediately escape from it, you try to forget it. That’s how it continues. The next time you are miserable — and you will not have to wait long; the moment my talk is finished you will be — don’t try to escape. My talk may also be functioning as an escape — you listen to me, you forget yourself. You listen to me, you have to be attentive towards me, but towards yourself you turn your back. You forget, you forget what your real situation is. I talk about bliss, I talk about ecstasy. That is real to me, but to you it becomes a dream. Again it becomes the hope that if you meditate, if you work for it, then it is going to happen to you also. Don’t use it as a drug. You can use a Master as a drug, and you can be drugged.

 

My whole effort is to make you more aware, so whenever you are in misery don’t try to escape. Hope is the enemy. Don’t hope, and don’t dream against the reality. If you are sad, then sadness is the reality. Remain with it; remain with it, don’t move, concentrate on it. Face it, let it be. Don’t move to the opposite of it. It is going to be a very bitter experience in the beginning, be cause when you face sadness, it surrounds you from every, where. You become like a small island and sadness is an ocean all around — and such great waves of sadness! One feels afraid, one feels a trembling to the very being. Tremble, be afraid. Only don’t do one thing — don’t escape. Let it be, penetrate deeply into it. See, watch — don’t judge. You have been doing that for millions of lives. Just watch, penetrate into it. Soon, the bitter experience will not be so bitter. Soon, out of the bitter en, counter arises reality. Soon you will be moving, penetrating deeper and deeper — and you will find the cause, what the cause of misery is, why you are so miserable.

 

The cause is not outside, it is within you, hidden in your misery. Misery is just like smoke. Somewhere there is fire inside you; penetrate deep into the smoke so you can find the fire. Nobody can put the smoke out because it is a by-product. But if you put the fire out, the smoke disappears of its own accord. Find the cause, the effect disappears because then some. thing can be done. Remember, only with the cause can some. thing be done, never with the effect. If you go on fighting with the effect, all fight is in vain. That is the meaning of Patanjali’s method of prati-prasav: go back to the cause, penetrate the effect and reach to the cause. The cause must be there some where. The effect is just like smoke surrounding you; but once the smoke surrounds you, you escape into hope. You dream about days when there will be no smoke. This is all foolish. Not only is it foolish, but suicidal, because this is how you are missing the cause.

 

Patanjali says ‘the discriminating person’. The Sanskrit word is vivek — it means awareness, it means consciousness, it means discriminating force. Because through awareness, you can discriminate between what is what: what is real, what is false, what is the effect and what is the cause.

 

The discriminating person, the man of vivek, the man of awareness, realizes that everything leads to misery. As you are, everything leads to misery. And if you remain as you are, everything will go on leading to misery. It is not a question of changing the situations, it is a question of a very deep-rooted thing within you. Something within you frustrates the very possibility of bliss. Something in you goes against your flowering into a blissful state. The man of awareness comes to know that everything leads to misery, everything.

 

You have done everything, but have you watched that everything leads to misery? If you hate, it leads to misery; if you love, it leads to misery. There seems to be no logical system in life. A man hates, it leads to misery. Simple logic will say that if hate leads to misery then love must lead to happiness. Then you love, and love also leads to misery. What is this? Is life absolutely absurd, irrational? Is there no logic? Is it a chaos? You do what soever you want, and finally comes misery. It seems that misery is the road and every road leads to it. From wherever you want to start, you can start: right, left, in the middle; Hindu, Mohammedan, Christian, Jain; man, woman, knowledge, ignorance, love, hate everything leads to misery. If you are angry it leads to misery; if you are not angry, that too leads to misery. It seems that misery is there and whatsoever you do is irrelevant. Finally, you come to it.

 

I have heard a story, and I have loved it always.

 

A psychoanalyst was visiting a madhouse. He asked the superintendent about a madman who was crying and weeping and beating his head against the wall. He had a beautiful picture of a woman in his hand. Asked the psychoanalyst, ‘What has happened to this man?’ The superintendent said, ‘This man loved this woman very much. He went mad because the woman did not agree to marry him. That’s why he has gone mad.’ Logical, simple, but next door to him was another madman and he was also crying and weeping and beating his head. He had a picture of the same woman in his hand, and he was spitting on the picture and using four letter words. Asked the psychoanalyst, ‘What has happened to this man? He has the same picture. What is the matter?’ The superintendent said, ‘This man was also madly in love with that same woman, and she agreed and married him. That’s why he is mad.’

 

Whether a woman rejects or accepts makes no difference; whether you get married or you don’t get married makes no difference. I have seen poor people in misery, I have seen rich people in misery. I have seen failures in misery, I have seen those who have succeeded in misery. Whatsoever you do, finally you come to the goal, and it is misery. Does every road lead to hell? What’s the matter? Then there seems to be no choice.

 

Yes, everything leads to misery — if you remain the same. I will tell you another thing: if you change, everything leads to heaven. If you remain the same, it is you, not what you do. What you do is irrelevant. Deep down, it is you. Whether you hate — you will hate — or whether you love — you will love — it is you who finally creates the phenomenon of misery or ecstasy, misery or bliss — unless you change. Just changing from hate to love, from this woman to that woman, this house to that house, won’t help. You are wasting time and energy. You have to change yourself.

 

- Osho, “Yoga: The Alpha and the Omega, Vol 4, #9″


 

 

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    on Frustration – frustration is the shadow of expectation

    Question : Osho, I feel so Frustrated! So what! You must be responsible for it. If you don’t want to feel frustrated then there is no need. You must be creating it. Nobody else is responsible; if you feel frustrated, you must be reaping the crop which you go on sowing. But you don’t see the relationship. If you expect too much, you will be...
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    A demanding mind always becomes miserable. Bliss is where demand is not

    [A sannyasin couple and their baby are present. The man says he expected to come here and feel better, more loving. Instead, he says, in some ways he feels more sad, tense, angry.] Expectation always creates misery. If you expect something, that very expectation will become the barrier. So live a life without any expectations. Your expecta...
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    Every pain can become a satori… satori, a samadhi

    [A sannyasin who came to Osho because he has cancer of the foot, has just discovered that it has now spread to the rest of his body. He says he feels strangely at peace. He is returning to the West.] Mm mm, no, nothing to be worried about; just go. But this time don’t be scared of the operation: if they suggest any operation, go through it...
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    on how to enjoy Suffering

    Question 2 Osho, When you talk about our having to suffer, you tell us to be joyful at the same time. trying to compromise these two things seems difficult. When I say suffer joyfully it looks paradoxical and your mind starts thinking how to compromise both, because to you they are contradictory. They are not, they only appear contradictor...
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    Don’t expect! Whatever you get, be grateful for it

    Question 2: Osho, I feel so blessed to have this opportunity to float in your ocean of silence. Does my wanting more block my availability to receive it? Anand Saten, I am sorry to say to you that your wanting more is certainly going to block your availability to receive the bliss that you are receiving without expectations. This is a simp...
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    To be without Misery needs great courage. To be Miserable is very Cheap

    Question : Osho, Yes, the house is on fire. my flames of jealousy, greed and violence are burning me. i see you shining at the doorway, beckoning me to simply come out, yet i hold back, clinging to my misery while my mind races on with desires. why can’t i let go? Deva Dwabha, to be without misery needs great courage. To be miserable is ve...
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    Why can i not live without Misery?

    Question : Why can i not live without Misery? Very few people can. Very few people can afford to live without misery. Misery gives you a sense of being, misery defines you. Misery gives you the ego, the self-identity. Misery gives you something to hold on to, you can cling to it. Bliss is very elusive. You can possess misery, you cannot po...
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    Suffering is created by you because you resist continuously, you don't allow it to happen.

    Suffering Question 4 Osho, Does the seeker have to suffer inevitably on the way? It all depends. Growth in itself has no suffering in it; suffering comes from your resistance towards growth. Suffering is created by you because you resist continuously, you don't allow it to happen. You are afraid to go totally with it; you go only halfheart...
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    Whenever a real situation arises and you are in suffering, remember to find out whether you are the cause of it.

    Suffering Question 4 We very often feel that we create our own sufferings. in spite of this, why do we continue creating them? and when and how does one stop creating one's own suffering? The first thing, and very basic to be understood, is that whenever you say WE VERY OFTEN FEEL THAT WE CREATE OUR OWN SUFFERING, this is not the case. You...
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    Pessimism is nothing but getting addicted to a miserable way of living

    Pessimism is nothing but getting addicted to a miserable way of living — and you are the creator of it. You are miserable because you are jealous. Now, a jealous person cannot hope to be optimistic. You are miserable because you are constantly angry, angry against the whole world, angry that existence has not been fair to you. Such a perso...
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    The miserable person is bound to be mean, he cannot be noble

    The miserable person is bound to be mean, he cannot be noble. One should not expect nobleness out of misery. That is impossible; that is asking for something which is against nature. But this is what we have been doing for centuries. People are miserable, and society in every way creates their misery. It is a created phenomenon, it is not ...
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    If sometimes one has to fall into hell, one has to; what else can one do?

    [A German sannyasin says: I have to go to the army and I don’t like it… For one and a half years.] Like it! Make it a point to like it. And enjoy it. Enjoy it as a discipline, as an exercise of will and you will be infinitely benefitted by it. If you go disliking it, then certainly it will be a loss of time, energy and a wastage. When one ...
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    Your anguish goes on deepening as you grow older.

    That's exactly what Kabir is saying: I LAUGH WHEN I HEAR THAT THE FISH IN THE WATER IS THIRSTY. Life surrounds you with all its joys, with immense possibilities, opportunities. And you go on crying and weeping! Your anguish goes on deepening as you grow older. Children can laugh, but the older you become, the more the laughter disappears. ...
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    The more desires you have, the more misery you will create for yourself

    The more desires you have, the more misery you will create for yourself. Misery is a consequence of desiring — and you go on desiring. In fact, you think that if your desires are fulfilled your miseries will disappear. In the first place they are never fulfilled; in the second place, if they are fulfilled, nothing is fulfilled by their ful...
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    Don’t expect, and there will be no frustration

    on Frustration Question 2: Why is there so much Frustration in the World? Because there is so much expectation. Expect, and there will be frustration. Don’t expect, and there will be no frustration. Frustration is a byproduct: the more you expect, the more you create your own frustration. So frustration is not really the problem, it is the...
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    Things that are causing you Misery must be giving you some Pleasure too

    Question 3: Osho, Why do i feel so much pain in letting go of the things that are causing me misery? Deva Akal, the things that are causing you misery must be giving you some pleasure too; otherwise the question does not arise. If they were pure misery you would have dropped them. But in life, nothing is pure; everything is mixed with its ...
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    One can be a servant to humanity out of misery

    One can become a helper for two reasons: either out of misery or out of bliss. One can be a servant to humanity out of misery,. One can become interested in others’ misery just on avoid one’s misery. Just to remain occupied with others’ problems, so that one need not look at one’s own problems. One can become too involved with others’ prob...
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    on healing emotional wounds : Don't throw it away. Absorb it

    We go on avoiding our own misery. If you feel miserable, you put on the radio or the tv and you become engaged. You start reading the newspaper so that you can forget your misery, or you go to the movies, or you go to your woman or your man. You go to the club, you go shopping in the market, just somehow to keep yourself away from yourself...
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    Only those who have suffered will be able to understand me

    Question : The return is entirely a personal affair. even a very near one cannot understand. it is actually easily possible only for those who have suffered. but, lord, you are calling all. is it possible for them to hear you call your call of love? That is not the point. Whether they hear it or not is not the point: I should go on calling...
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    If we can create misery, then why can’t we create joy?

    Deva means divine, samoda means delight – divine delight. And let that be your climate – live in it, breathe in it. It is only a question of remembering, and it comes. And you can do it very easily. You can easily become miserable, you can easily become blissful; it is one’s own creation. And once you have learned the fact – that it is one...
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    Why do I cling to my Misery? Why can I not drop it?

    Question : Osho, Why do I cling to my Misery? Why can I not drop it? The I, the ego, is not something separate from the misery, that’s why it is absolutely impossible for anyone to drop it. Who is going to drop it? They are not two, the dropper and the dropped. The ego is nothing but a complex of all your miseries, sufferings, anxieties, a...
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    Why is growth painful?

    Question 1 Osho, Why is growth painful? Growth is painful because you have been avoiding a thousand and one pains in your life. By avoiding you cannot destroy them -- they go on accumulating. You go on swallowing your pains; they remain in your system. That's why growth is painful -- when you start growing, when you decide to grow, you hav...
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    Suffering is a challenge. It is not a disease to be destroyed, it is a challenge to be accepted

    David means beloved of god. It comes from a Hebrew word dodavehu. Dodavehu means beloved of Jehovah. It is one of the most important things to remember, and to remember constantly: god loves you. One tends to forget. There are problems in life and there are agonies to be encountered and to be surpassed. Life is not just a bed of roses; hen...
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    Why does suffering exist in the world?

    Question : Osho, Why does suffering exist in the world? The suffering exists in the world because of purposes, goals and things like that. The suffering simply means you are split, torn apart — you are in such a situation that you can never be one whole, you can never be an organic unity. Suffering disappears the moment you drop purposes, ...
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    Before you can transform suffering you will have to become a witness

    Jesus says, “Love your enemies.” The Jewish God cannot love his enemies, so why should man? If God is incapable of loving his enemies, how can you expect poor man to? “And love your enemies,” Jesus says, “as you love yourself.” Again, he got it from some strange sources that the Jews were not aware of. This is a Buddhist approach, this is ...
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    Is not life nothing but misery?

    Question 4: Is not life nothing but misery? It depends on you. Life in itself is an empty canvas, it becomes whatsoever you paint on it. You can paint misery, you can paint bliss. This freedom is your glory. You can use this freedom in such a way that your whole life becomes a hell, or in such a way that your life becomes a thing of beauty...
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    Your ego leads to misery, nobody else leads you into misery

    Whenever you listen to the voice of the ego, sooner or later there will be trouble. You will fall into the trap of misery. This you have to watch: ego always leads into misery, always, unconditionally; always, categorically, absolutely. And whenever you listen to nature, it leads you to a well-being, a contentment, a silence, a bliss. So t...
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    What about physical pain?

    Question 1 I have glimpses of how psychological, existential pain is created by the ego. It is homemade, and it can be unmade. But what about physical pain: why is it there? Is it a necessary part of dying? I do not feel I am afraid of death as much as I am afraid of physical pain, senility, old age. Psychological pain can be dissolved; an...
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    on Suicide – Sannyas and suicide are two aspects of the same coin

    Whenever you think of suicide, remember, why are you thinking of suicide? Some hope has turned sour, some expectation has turned into a frustration, some desire has proved futile. You have become aware; even in your unawareness a little ray of awareness has penetrated you. You have seen, maybe only for a moment, a glimpse, just like lightn...
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    Why am i always living in a kind of hell?

    Question : Osho, Why am i always living in a kind of hell? Sudhir, IT IS ALWAYS your own creation. Whether you live in heaven or hell, you live in your own creation. Nobody else is responsible. Don’t throw the responsibility onto God, fate, kismet, society, economic structure. Don’t throw the responsibility on your past lives, on others. T...
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    on Misery : what is this attachment to misery?

    Question 1 Beloved Osho, What is this attachment to misery? And why is it so difficult to be happy? Prem Darshan, misery has many things to give to you which happiness cannot give. In fact, happiness takes away many things from you. Happiness takes all that you have ever had, all that you have ever been; happiness destroys you. Misery nour...
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    The greatest fault, the greatest misery is that people are not traveling at all towards truth

    Don’t be worried that you are alone. Slowly slowly, you will become able to balance yourself. Slowly slowly, in slow steps, you will be able to go beyond the known. Slowly slowly you will be able to die as an ego and be born as an egoless presence. It may take a little longer time. It may take you sometimes astray because you are alone and...
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    Is not life nothing but misery?

    Question 4: Is not life nothing but misery? It depends on you. Life in itself is an empty canvas, it becomes whatsoever you paint on it. You can paint misery, you can paint bliss. This freedom is your glory. You can use this freedom in such a way that your whole life becomes a hell, or in such a way that your life becomes a thing of beauty...
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    Osho Quotes on Frustration

    Osho Quotes on Frustration Expectation brings frustration. Private ambitions bring failures. ♦ All desiring is desiring for the futile. It leads only into frustration. ♦ Any object of desire is bound to bring frustration. Any expectation is bound to turn into frustration. Expectation is the beginning of frustration, the very seed. Beware o...
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    These so-called public servants, social reformers, are simply escapists

    A miserable person is bound to infect people with his misery; he cannot do otherwise. He can INTEND to do otherwise but he cannot really do it. That is not in the very nature of things; it is impossible. It is against the law of existence. If you are stinking, how can you give fragrance to others? Whenever you are giving something to other...
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    How does this mechanism of hope function?

    How does this mechanism of hope function? Whenever you are in misery, sad, depressed, you immediately escape from it, you try to forget it. That’s how it continues. The next time you are miserable — and you will not have to wait long; the moment my talk is finished you will be — don’t try to escape. My talk may also be functioning as an es...
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    People cannot accept bliss easily; misery is okay

    Sannyas is not prayer with sadness, seriousness. It is not prayer as a ritual, as a formality. It is prayer as playfulness. It is prayer as cheerfulness. The birds in the morning singing — that is prayer. They are not Christians, they are not Hindus, they are not Mohammedans; they don’t know anything about the church and the temple and the...
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    Before you can transform suffering you will have to become a witness

    Jesus says, “Love your enemies.” The Jewish God cannot love his enemies, so why should man? If God is incapable of loving his enemies, how can you expect poor man to? “And love your enemies,” Jesus says, “as you love yourself.” Again, he got it from some strange sources that the Jews were not aware of. This is a Buddhist approach, this is ...
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    Misery is symbolic of unawareness; bliss is symbolic of awareness.

    The devotee — the real follower — is constantly watching what he is doing, how he is doing, why he is doing. Even in small matters he de-automatizes himself. Walking, he does not just walk; he walks with meditative awareness. He knows that he is walking. Eating, he knows he is eating. You eat and you do a thousand and one other things. You...
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    In suffering look for the causes of suffering

    Question : Osho, One line from Dostoevsky’s work has impressed me much in my childhood. He says, “in suffering look for happiness.” I used to think that nothing of value could be attained without sacrifice and hard work. After meeting you and drinking your message of love, life, enjoyment and celebration, i realize that my previous idea wa...
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